When I was a younger person I thought that I knew everything about life!. Like most of us I had no idea about life or love or the journey. It used to mystify me when people would talk about finding love and how they couldn't find it. I was always in love and never had a problem. It wasn't until I got older that I realized what I had found was nothing to do with love.

As we get older and we become more and more cynical we often find that it is actually a very difficult thing to find love, well what is actual love anyway? . Many of us mistake lust and love anyway and often end up finding that we have found lust and not found love at all.

With the advent of the Internet and so many different ways to find things its not surprising that the Internet is being used by more and more people to find love. Its convenient and it gives you a chance to actually check out who you think meet certain criteria that we have, without actually having to go to all the expense of going out to eternally search.

I have always been of the belief that if you really want something you actually have to do something about it. Are you just sitting at home? Do you think that the person of your dreams is just about to ring the doorbell? Well all I can say is stop kidding yourself because that is no way to find your true love in this modern era.

In the past 5 years I used to try and find love by aimlessly going to bars and clubs trying to meet people. It just wasn't worth it the venues were always noisy and there was so many distractions that it was almost impossible to actually meet people so I gave up.

I have been on more dates in the last year than I had on the previous 4 years simply because I changed my focus and decided that if I was going to find love I could do it a lot more easily from looking on the internet than I could by going to crowded bars and clubs trying to get phone numbers etc. It is so much simpler than all the rubbish you get when you go to the clubbing scene.

I have met some of the most wonderful people recently by just trying on the Internet. It wasn't that hard, simply because you get to search for people you want to meet and decide who you make contact with. Then you can open channels of conversation and hopefully meet and see how things go. If you are shy it's a great place to start.

My advice to anyone is that if what you are doing at the moment isn't helping you to find love then you obviously need to change what you are doing. I hope that you get to find that person, as it's the most rewarding thing that anyone can find in life.