Most of our desires, personality and drives have been pre-programmed into us at birth and through growing up within what I call our own individual circle of influence from friends and family.
Women definitely have a few main needs, interests, wants, and desires that need to be fulfilled when you are talking about their perfect man and relationships.
If you look at the numerous on-line dating websites which a women describes a partner she is striving to look for pretty much all mention that they are looking for friendship, perfect soul mate, loyal and stable etc etc. Yet if you look at what all the men are looking for in their on-line dating descriptions mentions nothing of this sort and always inevitably focus on physical looks and attractions.
However, if you look into more detail you will find a conflict between a woman's ultimate desires and what they describe.
For example, a woman may want a strong masculine and dominating man, yet once she has chosen and is now with him, she may also want independence and thus feel like she is stuck and wants freedom.
Another example maybe that a women maybe looking for a man who can make her laugh all the time, yet when she has now found this humorous man, she feels that he never takes anything she says or does seriously, And SHE was the one who wanted him because of this personality!
Don't get me wrong, men also have this dilemma as well but different ones.
An example of this could be that a man first thinks what he wants is a beautiful women in his arms who he can make love to all night long, yet she can be the type that is easily strayed to other men and is constantly on the search too even though she already has you. Now ask any man and that is a painful experience. Did he really desire this beautiful woman in the first place, I doubt it.
One funny one that I hear a lot of is when women complain, (OK not complain, if you're a woman reading this), share their opinion with their girlfriends on their man who is glued to sports and always talk about sports. Yet what does sports give their man? The women was initially attracted to their man because of his masculinity and dominancy, and sports by nature fulfills a mans desire of competition, dominancy of others, power, adrenaline, action and adventure.
Wasn't this all the traits that a women is attracted to their man in the first place. Now imagine their man changes and becomes submissive and gentle, his attraction to her would be lost almost immediately. She' be wondering why he has changed so much and why she has lost her attraction to him?
