As parents we sometimes make it seem as if we have it all together to the degree that our children do not notice the mistakes and problematic issues we face as parents. I find it necessary sometimes to share with my daughter and let her know I’m not perfect. I do not pretend to be something I’m not; neither do I make it seem as though I have no troubles in my life. As the years go by; I’ve learned from my mistakes and admit to my daughter that I’ve made mistakes along the way. As parents we have just aged and mature over the years to the degree we are much wiser than we were when we were younger and growing up. All parents make mistakes regardless of their profession. I know we have professional doctors and other professional mental therapist who give us counseling; but I’m certain they have their own share of problems and differences just like every one else. No one is perfect in this earthly life. The only perfect person that ever walked the earth was Jesus.

Our main responsibility is being there for our children. Your child and mine need to understand we are not perfect but we are responsible for their upbringing to teach them right from wrong. It’s o.k. to let your child know when you make mistakes. I can remember most recently when me and my daughter made some blueberry muffins together; the directions on the package said add milk; I decided to add not only milk but an egg as well. When the muffins were done; my daughter took them out of the oven and they were deformed in appearance. To make a long story short; though it wasn’t much of a mistake, as much as being “hard-headed" I had to admit I was wrong by not following the instructions on the package and I found myself eating all the muffins simply because she did not like how they looked in appearance. Being honest with your child is one of the most important things you can do when sharing with them the challenges you face as a parent. While it appears we have it all together on the outside; we could be crumbling on the inside with not being honest with ourselves. To gain the respect you need from your child, be not afraid to admit your short coming.

Let your child or children know we’ve all make mistakes; and once they are grown they will find themselves making their share of mistakes as well. Our responsibility is to prepare our children for their future with proper guidance and direction to become responsible citizens. You should want what’s best for your child; but it all starts with admitting you’re not perfect; just responsible for the teaching and training for their “well-being." Being a “single-parent" sometimes makes it doubly hard because your child sometimes make it seem as if you can do no wrong. In their eyes and mind; you are the perfect parent.

Your child or children are an asset to you and not a liability. Look, Children are a heritage from the Lord, the fruit of your womb is a reward. Psalm 127:3. If you are struggling with your parental rights and responsibilities sign-up to receive tips on life in general and I can help you with your parenting concerns.

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