Every day millions of under-sexed guys across the globe ask themselves, "Where can I meet women?" Hey, there's nothing wrong with that! The sex drive in the human mammal is one of the primary motivators for all actions and thought processes. That's what Freud believed and Freud was a bit of a player himself, having a wife, a lust with his sister-in-law and even a fixation on his mother. (Yikes!) Psychology aside, the moment you start to make peace with yourself over your natural desires for intimacy and companionship, the more successful in dating you will become.

This lesson is usually taught to males, and a certain population among men who lack sexual confidence. It's a bit of a stereotype to suggest that good boys turn into nice guys and then eventually finish last when it comes to dating. This is not necessarily true, even if this does seem to be the proverbial case. A more accurate statement would be that sexually inexperienced men seem to have trouble meeting new singles. This may be because they are young, and they are relatively new to dating lifestyle, or have just recently ended long-term relationship. Because they lack experience, they may perceive dating and the Big Question as a stressful situation. Nobody likes rejection, after all, and the dating world can seem ruthless in terms of how people treat one another's feelings, respect and dignity.

The same principles taught to men also apply to females. Women are taught by society to be "ladylike" and to refrain from expressing overt interest in a member of the opposite sex. While some feminists and very sexy uninhibited women challenge this notion every day, for a certain population of women, they are also unsuccessful in looking for romance. They might ask themselves the same question: where can I meet singles and why does it have to be so complicated?

Let's start by addressing the fundamental issue: there is no right or wrong place to meet singles. Single men and women are everywhere. What happens is that we deceive ourselves into thinking that circumstances have to be near-perfect in order for the dating ritual to start. Not true—you can meet anybody in any given social situation, from something as mundane to shopping at a grocery store or as spectacular as blasting off to the moon. The first step in transforming your dating life is to realize that there is an entire world of possibilities out there.

The real question is not, "Where can I meet singles?" but what is stopping you from swallowing your pride and showing an interest in someone you like, no matter where you meet them? Meeting singles is not as hard as you think. It can be as easy as going to a singles bar or chatting up an attractive person at the bank. The biggest problem is that we want the dating scene to be set up "just so", so we can feel comfortable and be able to handle a conversation.

The real answer then is to work on improving your communication skills and on readjusting your attitude towards dating. Don't be afraid of rejection. The statistics show us that many types of people are completely incompatible with each other. Whether you realize this after three years of marriage, or a 30 second conversation at a bus stop, is irrelevant. It's not "rejection" to you personally. It's just the word "no". Stop reliving your childhood days and developing such a complex to a simple word! Realize that the cookie jar you want in life is yours for the taking! It may take persistence and some preparation, but it's never as hard as you think it is. The worrying stage is the worst part of it all, so let's get together and have some cookies!