Everyone has different taste, and that often gets in the way of decorating your home after marriage. You each like different colors and styles, and the one room that should be your own private love nest becomes the object of bitter design battles. How can you work together to choose your bedroom furniture and accents so that you are both happy with the results?

Of course, the first word that comes to mind is compromise, which makes most people roll their eyes in disgust. To be honest, compromise is not always the right way to go. If you compromise, each party often ends up uncomfortable with some aspect of the design. He hates the ruffled curtains, and she hates the stately wrought iron beds and armchairs. There are better ways to go about coming to an agreement on your bedroom accents.

While it sounds like a difficult task, you should really consider nixing any ideas from either party that irritate the other. Instead, you need to focus on common likes and dislikes. This can be a long and tedious process, but you will come to a point where you can determine what will please you both. For example, neither of you likes the color pink, so there will be no rose, lilac, or other shade of pink in the comforter, on the pillows, or anywhere else in your bedroom. However, after browsing several catalogs offering metal bed furniture, wooden headboard accents, and every brass canopy bed you can imagine, and walking through several furniture and accessory stores, you find that you both like rust colored accents. Now, you can find a bed skirt and perhaps matching window shades in this color that please you both.

It would not be fair for neither of you to have at least one item that you really wanted. Therefore, if you cannot both agree on this item, the single compromise you incorporate into your bedroom furniture and accent motif could be a particular photograph that you like and an old, ragged blanket with which your spouse refuses to part. These can always be put out of the immediate view of the opposing party so that neither of you become irritated with the items in question.

The point of having a bedroom together is to be able to relax and be comfortable together, enjoying each other's company and establishing intimacy. If you are constantly at odds regarding the type of beds, dressers, chests and other decoration in your bedroom, you will obviously never achieve such a status. In order to arrive at such an agreeable status, you may have to stretch your imagination beyond what you would normally find appealing, but love is blind, right? You should be able to look beyond your limits and obtain a new perspective that will allow you to venture into uncharted territory.

Eventually, if you are patient and loving toward each other, you will come to an agreement regarding your bedroom accents. While you may end up with something totally different than what you pictured in the beginning, you are sure to find accents that you can both appreciate to make your own little heaven a relaxing place to be more intimate together.