This is obvious for every person who wants to achieve anything in this world. Yet it is not obvious that if one wants to be successful with women one needs to STOP trying to achieve his goal, or even better, abolish his goal completely.

This may be a difficult notion to grasp for most guys because we all have been brainwashed from the day we were born that we must make an effort to achieve every endeavor in life.

So when suddenly someone tells a guy that he needs to cease all action in order to achieve success with women, the average guy just doesn't know how to act.

The questions which begins with, "how...", "what...", and "why...":

- How can I be successful with women? - What do women want? - Why am I always alone?

These are not serious questions at all and will not help you achieve what you want in any way.

Most guys think that if only they had the CORRECT answers to their questions they would get anything that they desire from life.

I am saying that this is all false. This is the trick that the mind produces to maintain security.

Your questions are your problems. They are not a valid tool for getting solutions.

Questions are the manifestation of our deepest erroneous beliefs.

Let me give you an example:

For some reason, let's say for the example, you were led to believe that you are extraordinarily ugly.

This is not a fact but the truth is that you genuinely and earnestly believe it, thus it is your actual reality.

When people ask why you are not successful with women, you bluntly tell them that women are generally looking for a more attractive guy (Remember that we are talking about a guy who is not really ugly).

Then one day you are thinking about picking up a certain girl and then you hear this little tiny voice inside your head which tells you that this kind of girl is out of your league, because she will only go out with handsome men.

Then, this is the important part, you ask these questions:

"How can I become more successful with women?" "How can I be more attractive?" "What do I need to do in order for hot women to be attracted to me?"

Now...

When you are weak, confused and are seeking help and guidance. (If you were expecting an angel to come down and help you, forget about it)

This is the time when all the gurus come with their books, tapes, seminars, coaching...I don't want to go any further because I feel sick.

Don't get me wrong, there is nothing wrong in paying for information if it is GOOD and productive information.

It is definitely wrong if someone tells you that you should implement a system, a method, a pickup line if you want to be successful with women.

Out of your deep loneliness, frustration, emptiness blossoms the request for becoming successful with women.

Instead of the guru explaining to you just that, he is telling you: You want to be successful with women? Great, it shows that you are serious.

Pay me 49$ and I will give you 150 ways to become successful with women overnight.

It is like someone who has a virus and he goes to the doctor. The doctor tells him: Just put on this cold towel on your forehead and you will be just fine. What you want is not logical. A good person will teach you how to negate stupid beliefs and not to add more beliefs which will add to your confusion.

It is like a drug addict asking a guru for drugs, and this guru gives him the drugs and does not tell him that drugs will lead him to destruction!

It is either that the guru is lying, not knowledgeable or delusional.

So please don't read any of the positive tips, advice or ten ways to achieve success. Instead try to find out why you look for such methods.

THE END

P.S. - You may say now that I have left you with nothing to hold on to. No positive method to follow but I think I did.

When you truly understand, with your mind, head, heart, flash and bones, that everything you know about women has just kept you from getting in a relationship with them, your fear will go away.

And this time - effortlessly.

Thank you for reading.