The collection of advice I have gathered comes from grandmothers, aunts, friends and sisters. Sadly, there are quite a few of us who have been devastated by infidelity. I hope some of these steps help you get through these hard times and move to a better place in your life.

Back in my grandmaas day, she said it was almost expected of a man, but never talked about. She encouraged me to delve into something I love doing to help my soul find peace. I needed to come to terms with what had happened.

My aunt had advice on the other side of the spectrum. She advised me to find a professional to speak with. Someone I could just pour my heart, soul, pain, and tears out to. My uncle firmly agreed with her also.

My sister, always the down to earth realist gave me lots of advice on how to rid myself of the "problem", as she called my spouse. She also advised me to scream and hit a pillow and "let it all out". She repeatedly told me that if I didn't let it out my insides would suffer.

From friends I got the most imaginative, outlandish advice and the soundest. One suggested moving to a French villa. Another reminded me it was not my fault, but my husbandas own issues. I was still beautiful and worth a lot more.

I listened to my old friend and then I went and sat looking in the mirror. I found no evidence of fault there. I found no guilt. What I saw was just a lot of pain and sadness, a deep hurt that the one I trusted had caused, and only I could release.

In the end, I accepted all the advice. I enjoyed time by myself, occasionally beating up soft objects, yelling, and even talked to a professional. In addition, I always remember to look at myself in the mirror and admire myself.