Oprah is a driving force, with her message of empowering women and her success at moving product. So now the contest for the democratic nomination is more up in the air. Hillary pulled out all the stops, spending her time drumming up support with her mom and daughter close by her side. As Sandwiched Boomers, in the midst of dealing with aging parents and growing children, are you in the same boat - are you in need of some help in finding support for yourself? Learn how to go about it from the following ideas:



1.Educate yourself about what to expect and the various resources and organizations available to you. Talk to friends and family whose opinions you respect. Collaboration is essential during such a critical period of time. Reach out and create a network - you don't have to do it alone.

2.Be frank with your family. Engage your siblings in the problems with your parents and in the solutions. Put emotional and logistical support systems in place, as you ask for practical help and delegate responsibilities. Have them set aside their more personal agendas and work together toward collective goals.

3.Find a class or workshop that addresses your specific concerns. Local university extension programs or mental health centers provide training seminars about a variety of issues common to Sandwiched Boomers.

4.Join an ongoing group or attend a weekend retreat to share concerns, problem-solve and gain new perspective. A therapist or a coach can be a sounding board, validate your perceptions, support your ideas and help you follow through with your plans.

5.As knowledge is power, try to better understand the difficult transitions your family in flux is going through. Gather information about how to manage change from the Internet's search engines or the self-help section of bookstores. Talk to others who have gone through similar experiences in order to get realistic feedback and some concrete advice.

6.Dig deep and find your own inner voice - listen to what it has to say about caring for your family relationships and nurturing yourself personally. Set some specific goals about what you need from your family and for you. Step by step, work toward achieving them.

Perhaps the marriage of show business and politics is a little too Hollywood for your taste, with Obama and Hillary focused on the best way to achieve maximum political advantage. For you, it's about building a support system, not star power. How to get the vote of confidence, from those whose reinforcement you need, may be the crux of your struggle right now. Pitch for the demographic that will buoy you up in times of need. And save the best seats in the house to those who will continue to work on your behalf.

(C) 2007, Her Mentor Center