The reasons why men cheat in a relationship are often different than the reasons why women cheat. A man's reason for cheating can include genetics, a sense of challenge, self-esteem and a lack of interest in their current relationship. None of these reasons are justifiable but it is very helpful to understand them.
Genetics may play a factor. There is a theory that some men are more susceptible because of high testosterone levels and high sex drive. The theory suggests that men are programmed from prehistoric times to ensure the survival of the species by being sexual with as many women as possible.
Certainly some men have very high sex drives, but this is no reason for unfaithfulness to a partner in today's world of overpopulation and rampant divorce. Just like any other health issue, there are better ways available than giving in to the urges.
Another reason men cheat is the sense of challenge. They enjoy getting away with the affair, as well as the challenge of finding other women with whom to cheat. They enjoy the conquest more than anything.
Sure they enjoy the sexuality of the affair, but the pursuit, sneaking around, and the orchestration of the affair give the adrenaline rush that is more important than either the affair or the current relationship.
Men also cheat because of competition with other men. If their friends are single or cheating on their partners the man may feel he has to keep up with his friends.
This competition also fits in with the ego boost men will usually feel when in an affair. They feel desirable, powerful, and like a winner. They take pride in their ability to attract women and don't care that doing so may destroy their relationship. Often the excitement of the chase is more important than the conquest.
Sometimes, just knowing that other women find them desirable is enough of a stroke that an actual affair is not even necessary. In general, it is a lack of self-esteem that drives them to reaffirm their attractiveness and desirability.
There usually is some difference between men who repeatedly cheat and those who have a single affair and then are rather surprised to find themselves in such a situation. The last reason for cheating is more likely to apply to this second group.
A man who is in a undesirable relationship is an affair waiting to happen. If the relationship has begun to wane and the man no longer feels the same attraction, he may find himself moving from boredom toward the excitement of another woman. It often starts as an innocent friendship that goes too far.
While the wise thing for such a man to do would be to either end the deteriorating relationship or go to work on making it better, many men hold on to it for safety while becoming involved with someone else.
All these reasons contribute to why men cheat: genetics, competition, self-esteem, and boredom. None justify the breaking of faith with a partner and the resulting loss of true emotional intimacy. However, understanding the problem helps us move toward the solutions in future articles.
Why Do Men Cheat
With the rise in the number of extramarital affairs of late, infidelity in human beings has suddenly become an issue of much of a concern. Go through a glossy mag or browse through the Internet, topics regarding faithlessness in relationships are being discussed everywhere. And in most of these cases, the man is the betrayer. So, the question that rises in our minds is ?Why a man becomes unfaithful to his wife?? ?There can be varied reasons behind this.
Sex is of course the primary reason. Most men just don't have any control over their eyes and hands. Give them a place and opportunity to cheat and they will grab it in no second. Compared to women, men are far more sexual in nature, so they can't resist their animalistic urge. So, they get into the cheating game over and again. No man running high on his testosterone level can possibly turn down a temptingly horny hottie. So, a man mainly cheats for deriving sexual pleasure; it's not necessary he is willing to form any sort of emotional attachment with the other woman.
Instead of recouping a marriage that is on the rocks, most men would prefer sneaking around. They would rather opt for an office fling than working hard to make his long-term relationship work. Sometimes, they try to keep his marriage and children intact, but continue having affair with his office secretary, thanks to the long hours he spends in his working environment.
The male ego is so fragile that once he receives compliments from another woman, his low self-esteem gets a boost and he is all set to go to bed with that woman. There's nothing more fulfilling to a man than to get appreciation from other women and this leads to infidelity.
If men do not get the required level of satisfaction out of a relationship, they are bound to cheat. Sexual dissatisfaction or absence of healthy both-way communication ? everything can create a mental void and the man tries to find solace in the arms of another woman. When the zing of the initial years of relationship goes kaput, he looks for something wild and kinky outside marriage. As a common example, it can be stated that five years down the marriage and after giving birth to two children, the wife is not anymore interested in sexual experimentations and to get rid of this nagging creature, the husband is turning adulterous.
Loneliness is a major reason behind adultery. If the wife acts like a stranger in bed, then what's the option left for the man other than cheating her. Feeling alone, he wanders with roving eyes to meet the person who is willing to gratify his hunger of sex.
Some men are just not willing to show the respect that their partners deserve. They are often too immatured to understand the true value of a relationship. Fulfilling their own needs and desires is what matters the most to them. They are least bothered about who is getting hurt in the process. This is definitely a selfish act.
In some instances, the behavior of his spouse becomes the root cause of a man's disloyalty. Continuous niggling, fighting and bickering make a relationship hit its dead-end. If the warmth is missing in a relationship, then what's the use of dragging it far? So, he moves on for greener pasture.
Sometimes, men find the opportunity of getting into a rollicking sexual encounter too hard to resist. Thus, they become unfaithful.
If, somehow a man stumbles upon evidences of past affair of his wife, he jumps into the extramarital bandwagon. He thinks this can be the best way of relieving his anger.
Getting bored with the routine activities of domestic drudgery, he wants to put his manliness into test and if he succeeds in attracting another woman, there's no looking back for him. Nothing gives them a better high than being the object of desire of another women.
Men are far more adventurous in nature than their female counterparts. Even after settling down, they start missing the thrill of chasing and conquering the hearts of the fairer sex. ?The more the merrier? ? this is the motto of these men. To them, sleeping with beautiful women is like winning ?sexual trophies?.
Variety is the name of game. Instead of sticking to a single person, they are on a spree of tasting different sexual flavors.
Most men's psyche goes like this ? ?It's fine as long as I am getting away with it?. They may have felt guilty deep inside, but as the chance of getting caught is less, they don't want to deprive themselves from the fun of adultery.
Men regard women as the epitome of forgiveness. They think, despite all their infidelity, his woman will surely forgive and forget at the end of the day.
Before marriage, his girlfriend is the most beautiful woman to a man. But after she becomes his wife, the spice is gradually lost. Now, he turns to his gorgeous mistresses.
The power of love keeps a relationship going. Once the feelings for his wife are lost, the man goes elsewhere to satiate his sexual appetite.
But, men better keep in mind that cheating can give you momentary relief from your day-to-day problems, but in the long run, it cannot bring you happiness.
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