Few things are as abominable as a deceitful lover. The very thought that one's sweetheart may not be perfectly faithful is enough to keep us up at night. Does she have secret rendezvous with another man? Is he cheating on you? Such questions plague us no end. Numerous ladies are saddled with unfaithful spouses or boyfriends. Often women think it in their minds but cannot come to a definite conclusion. At times women end up charging their lovers wrongly. This can be disconcerting but there are signs which will let you know for sure if your man is indeed straying and for this you need not exert yourself too much.



Men display very many signs which show if they are straying. A major indicator of a disloyal lover is in the emotional displays made by such a man. But it is not easy to understand or unravel emotional signals since these are very elusive and faint, especially in men. And one needs to have confirmation before they can absolutely believe these. In any case, dealing with feelings has never been an easy task. Feelings are difficult to define and subject to much change. Over-charged emotions may lead us to false conclusions and we end up acting unusually. Openly expressed feelings may also give away your secret. All this notwithstanding, emotional responses are still the best way of judging for yourself the infidelity of your lover.

Here are some ways to unravel the mysteries about what emotions inspires which action in your beloved. Undoubtedly, an unfaithful lover experiences a varied spectrum of many emotions, out of which a guilty conscience most certainly forms a major part, despite whatever enjoyment he may feel from this new 'attachment'. Even though starting an affair may make the person in question feel a certain enjoyment their conscience tells them their behaviour is not right. These powerful emotions when combined will be visible in his unusual conduct and you will certainly notice him behaving in a way that is odd and uncharacteristic.

Let me list for you certain traits that you will surely see in your lover if they are actually cheating:

1. His phone bill has a new number listed on it and the data shows that the number is frequently called every day. When you call this number a woman's voice is heard on the other end.

2. Many times in a day when you pick up calls on his mobile or land line someone hangs up at the other end.

3. He isn't as interested in sex as he used to be.

4. He makes alterations in the way he dresses and won't explain why.

5. When you take his clothes for a laundry wash you come across little slips of paper bearing unknown numbers.

6. He doesn't hang out with you as much as he used to and prefers to spend more time with his guy friends or even 'working late'.

7. He acts erratic and charges you with disloyalty, all the time acting jealously.

8. You can smell a woman's perfume on him on the several evenings that he returns home late. It is the same perfume each time.

9. Every time he picks up the phone goes out of the room and speaks very softly into the phone. When you ask him who it was he says it was a call related to work.

10. He makes sudden phone calls to you and tries to find out if you have made plans to venture out later with your family or your friends.

Despite all of the above mentioned you must ask your lover if he is actually being unfaithful to you or having an affair with another. When confronted with this question his reaction will make the answer all too clear to you. A cowardly person will not scruple to lie though. You must observe his facial expressions very closely therefore which will certainly give him away.

While ending a relationship can be sad it is necessary for you to separate from a partner who is not faithful. It is much better if you come to know the hard facts at the earliest possible time. A bond which the other person does not honour is a bogus one and will only make you miserable. Only by breaking away from it can you begin life afresh. At no point are you to blame yourself since a cheating nature can never be satisfied with any one woman and this vicious cycle will probably continue for the man in question.