Now a day's psychology is such a profound and a successful field though human emotions. In the field of understanding in the human mind deserves a bounty of effort and man power. The two major emotions that humans tend to struggle cruelly are depression and anger. Several say that controlling anger and depression is related to the point of view of our life and others demand that drugs are required. Everyone has an opinion to this delicate subject, and all of them assume only their is correct.



Anger is "an emotional state that varies in intensity from mild irritation to intense fury and rage," according to psychologist doctors. Anger is a completely normal, usually healthy, human emotion but it can stiffle our emotional freedom. But when it gets out of control and turns destructive, it can lead to problems-problems at work, in your personal relationships, and in the overall quality of your life. And it can make you feel as though you're at the mercy of an unpredictable and powerful emotion.

In dealing with anger, since it is impossible to fulfill all our desires or to stop unwanted things happening to us, we need to find a different way of relating to frustrated desires and unwanted occurrences. We need to learn patient acceptance. Patience is a mind that is able to accept, fully and happily, whatever occurs. It is much more than just gritting our teeth and putting up with things. Being patient means to welcome wholeheartedly whatever arises, having given up the idea that things should be other than what they are. It is always possible to be patient; there is no situation so bad that it cannot be accepted patiently, with an open, accommodating, and peaceful heart. As what I have experience from my anger problem for years, I could feel anger boiling and I know it unreasonable to get me upset but still I could not control it. This kind of feeling make me scared because I used to threaten people, until I learned to control anger. If you do not know how to control anger, you must learn - both for your own sake and the sake of those around you.

Many different strategies and skills for anger management intervention have been tried and tested. Some of the most empirically supported interventions are cognitive-behavioral interventions including relaxation coping skills, cognitive interventions, behavioral coping and social skills training, and problem-solving skills training. The goal of anger management is to reduce both your emotional feelings and the physiological arousal that anger causes. You can't get rid of, or avoid, the things or the people that enrage you, nor can you change them, but you can learn to control your reactions. And I found out that, as you can see it on the news regarding American drivers, named Adam Sandler and Jack Nicholson. Even persons have a controlling anger, granted that some are worse compared to others, but humans do harbor anger issues. Some of them keep on battle and negatively affect their health with anger on regular basis still it is essential to deal with them. Some ways you can do this are through meditation, therapy, physical activity and mental imagery. Obviously anger management therapy is a commonly known treatment for controlling anger.

Though, not everyone is open enough to obtain such aid, with proper meditation allow you to relax your mind and body, clear all the burdens and negativity. This is healthy and will reduce your feelings of anger. The idea of using hypnosis or meditation to control anger has grown in popularity recently. No one took the idea seriously at all. Everyone thought that you had to deal with anger intellectually. Anything that relaxes you emotionally, such as meditation, taking a long walk, taking a hot shower, or reading, can be a good method of controlling anger.

One thing here is physical venting this is one of my favorite in controlling anger. This involve through games such as basketball, rock climbing, swimming, martial arts, running or weight training. These great physical activities can vent feelings of anger at the end of your workout. The important thing is to find out what works for you and to do it!

Unfortunately, controlling anger is easier said and done. There are many methods out there nowadays, but none of them work for everyone. And there are several ways you can learn to control your anger. Relaxation is one of the best stress and anger management techniques. You can learn to relax through meditation, guided imagery, deep breathing, and hypnosis. When employing any of these techniques, you will be able to relax and calm down whenever you feel your temper getting the best of you. I found out that the best result from combining these two techniques which is anger management and anger therapy is we can learn tips and tricks to control our anger before it boils over and the have both good ways in controlling anger.

Another way of controlling anger here is once we fully accept other people as they are without the slightest judgment or reservation - as all the enlightened beings accept us - then there is no basis for problems in our relations with others. Problems do not exist outside our mind, so when we stop seeing other people as problems they stop being problems. The person who is a problem to a non-accepting mind does not exist in the calm, clear space of patient acceptance.



For me, I had to find my own gear for controlling anger. It was a long and involved process of trial and error. Recognizing that you are angry is the first step in dealing with it. Some people find it difficult to admit they are angry perhaps because they view their feelings as inappropriate or not valid. These people may deny their feelings therefore choosing not to deal with them. And also recognizing the reason for your feelings of anger is an important step in dealing with the anger. After analyzing the reasons, you will decide in your mind if the anger is reasonable or justifiable. If you decide the anger is unrealistic you can diffuse the feelings. If you decide the anger is realistic, you can better decide how to deal with your feelings. A network of people to help you is the most important tool you can have for controlling anger. Without it, it is impossible to succeed.