Being a woman who was single once, I have seen some cringe-worthy pickup attempts. Here are some tips to approach women or at least leave with your dignity intact. First, don't take rejection personally. Some women just want go out with their friends. They have no intention of meeting you or anyone else. Some will reject you in the worst possible way just for the fun of it. Just remember that person is the one with issues, not you.
Next, don't brag. You bring yourself down when you try to explain why they should be with you. Do you think James Bond ever brags about himself? Just introduce yourself and make small talk. Ask if she's ever been here before, if she likes the song that's playing, if she is in school, or where she works.
There are some questions that you should not ask unless you're sure that she wants you to ask them. She may think you have ulterior motives or that you're just being nosy:
Do you come here ALL the time?
Can I drive you home?
Are you here with friends?
Are you religious?
Next, know how to compliment a woman. It's great to tell a woman that she's pretty, she has beautiful eyes, she's a great dancer, she's really smart, or she's fun to talk to. But, don't compliment her body. It's too aggressive.
If you've been having a nice conversation, don't ruin it by asking, "Can I have your number?" Instead, first ask if she's up for dinner or lunch next week. If you've been talking about art, ask her to go to the museum. If she's a sports fan, maybe she'd like to go to a game with you.
"Just be yourself." This is an old line, but it's so true. Mad T.V. has a hilarious skit with Bobby Lee trying to pick up a girl using all kinds of slang and hand gestures. He's trying to show that he's cool, but he just looks silly.
Also, remember that appearance counts. Make sure that you are neat and clean, but don't take a bath in cologne. Better yet, don't use cologne because you may put on to much without realizing it. Is your hairstyle outdated? Are your clothes out of style? Ask a female friend or relative to give you an opinion. She may even agree to shop with you. Be stylish in a subtle day. Don't go overboard with something too trendy that you don't feel comfortable. Are you out of shape? Don't wait until you get in shape to ask someone out. But, make a commitment to lose the extra pounds. In addition to protecting your health, you may have better luck meeting women. There you have two good incentives. Good luck!
How To Pick Up A Woman
I bet you see loads of women everyday that you wish you could talk to. You know...the attractive, confident and interesting type but you just know she wouldn't even look twice at you. You may think that you would never be able to meet a girl like this because she is either out or your league or you just don't know what to say to her ... but I do and I am going to show you how you can get her number.
Lets first look at what happens when you see an attractive woman.
First, you think she is wonderful wish you had the opportunity to talk to her. Secondly, you start to think about it, get really nervous and desperately try to build up your confidence get over there and say something to her. But because you don't really know what you should do or say, you watch the opportunity slip away as she crosses the street or drives out of sight and you wish you had gone and spoken to her...even if it was just a "Hey, what's up?"
You must understand there is no reason for not talking to her. Attractive women have men who whistle at her and stare two holes in her ass many times each day.
Women of sheer beauty are sick of men like that...what she wants is an interesting guy that can talk to her without immediately staring at her ass or asking for her number right away.
Attractive women get 'hit on' and 'asked out' all the time, so what makes you think you can get any further if you are just like everybody else? Remember, you need to be different!
Now listen carefully: the woman you want to meet and pick up at the street corner over there already had countless nice guys come over to her in her lifetime and tell her how beautiful she looks and ask if they can have permission to talk to her. She is sick of these guys.
If you want to be successful and get her phone number you need to have a different approach. Let me show you how:
You have to think of something funny or interesting to say to her. Don't be nice, don't pay her a compliment and don't tell her that "I noticed you from over there and just had to come over and talk to you".
Everybody does that. What you need to do is push her emotional trigger buttons that create attraction. And how do you do that? By being slightly arrogant but funny at the same time...also called being CHEEKY!
All you have to do is open your mouth when you are near her or when she is just passing you ... and continue talking so she stops dead in her tracks. If you get a woman's attention, she will just look at you ... but if you keep talking, she will stop right in front of you. And if you can turn up the heat by being cheeky, she will get attracted in an instant...and get hooked just like that.
So the first thing you do is say "HEY!" or "HI!"...then continue with "Hey listen ... I need your female opinion about something"
This automatically disarms the "oh, not another guy" syndrome in her mind because you come off as different.
Then, you just ask her anything that will make her curious, interested and is a great platform for teasing her to get her attracted.
"HEY! ... Listen, c'mere for a second. I need your female opinion about something. I'm having some difficulties here ... what the hell is the difference between a G-String, and a Thong? I'm supposed to buy this pink thingy for my cousin and I have NO Idea. I think you women are deliberately trying to confuzzle us guys..."
Just keep playing, teasing and busting her balls until she says "What's your name?" ... that's the point where you can tell a woman got attracted to you, and once that happens she is willing to give you her number if you keep it up being cheeky for another 3-5 minutes.
Being successful in the dating game is very simple ... IF you know how it works :)
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