It is a very emotional event when the love of your life decides to break up with you. If you know how to win back your ex, and take the proper steps, then there is a good chance that you can reverse this and get your love life back on track. It all starts by making the proper first move.

Your emotions will cause you to try foolish things that generally will drive your ex farther away from you. It is always best to calm down and use your head to think instead of your heart which is emotionally charged. In other words, do not panic! Just stay cool and think things out.

Do not resort to calling or text messaging your ex constantly to confess to them your undying love. Never call them if you are intoxicated or doing similar useless things. You must keep your cool and not let you emotions dictate your actions. Emotional responses tend to lead you to do the wrong things and only serve to worsen your chances.

You can now plan out your first move with a clear mind. Do not wait to act here because time is your enemy in a break up situation. The sooner your do this the better your chances of having success.

The first thing you need to do is to tell your ex in a very calm and sincere manner that you totally agree with the breakup. Tell your ex that you agree that this is the best thing for both of you right now. Your heart may say no to this, but you need to remember that this is a proven strategy that works for a reason.

The reason this move works is because when you calmly agree with the break up your ex will suddenly start to see you in a different way. You no longer appear to your ex as a pathetic person clawing desperately to hang onto them, but as a stronger person who can actually go on without them. This will actually make you more attractive to them because people tend to be more attracted to things that are harder to get or things they cannot have.

Once you make this first move you will need to stick with your decision to play it cool. Resist your emotional responses and stick with the plan. Anything that you do at this point to show that you are not serious will just allow your ex to see right through you. This move sounds simple and easy, but it takes some fortitude to carry it out to it's completion.

This break up agreement is just the first step in a sequence of steps that you need to do in order to win your ex back. There are more steps that you will need to do afterwards and you should learn all of them to have the best chance of success.