With all the crazy feelings and desperation flying around, it is really easy to mess up your situation even more by staying in contact with your ex and accidentally flying off the handle with an outburst that you later realize you really shouldnt have said if you wanted to get him back. There are ways to deal with this, however.



Its a very good tip that you hear a lot, take a break...give him some space, and no contact. Whats less often specified is how long to keep up this term of no contact, but the safe rule of thumb is usually about a month. 30 days without seeing his face or hearing his voice can be rough, but its the best option at this point if you want him back.

You are going to have to resist the temptation to break this rule, however...it wont be easy, and you will really want to talk to him, but for the sake of your future you have to avoid it. Here are some of the most common and destructive ways people trick themselves out of following the No Contact Rule.

1. Drunk Dialing. This occurs most often when its late at night, you have had a couple drinks to ease the loneliness, and you soon find that the alcohol does little to dull the pain inside. The drinks can affect your judgement and amplify your feelings of sadness until you give in and dial your ex boyfriends number without really even knowing what to say, and what follows is the most embarassing half conversation you have ever had.

2. Text Message Terrorism. Being cut off from the one you love can make a person really desperate to win her ex back...so much so that without thinking of how it appears, she starts bombing him with an onslaught of messages, phone calls, and emails that only result in her looking like a head case. You dont want to ruin how your ex sees you, so stop yourself whenever you start to get the urge to do this.

These two mistakes are absolutely brutal when it comes to destroying your chances of getting your ex back. You can still overcome these if you catch them early, but its always best to try to avoid them in the first place.

Through all this, the top value of this breaktime isnt damage control, its the breathing room you have to plan your next move...in fact, plan all your next moves Having an underlying strategy or technique to use makes your life exponentially easier, and best of all is if you can find a proven-effective process from another resource.