As a woman, you should love yourself unconditionally, but I know that this is not always as easy as it sounds. I realize that it may be a long road depending on where you are starting, but everyone can learn to love and appreciate themselves. A good rule of thumb to follow is: treat yourself like you would treat your best friend because sadly, many people treat others better than they do themselves. Imagine if your best girl friend started complaining to you about her weight and saying that she was fat; you would probably tell her she is not and be her personal cheerleader, advisor and support system. This should be the same for you; cheer yourself on and be that support team for you too.



The first and best way to start loving yourself is to begin doing things for yourself that are loving and kind. You could start by drawing yourself a bath and giving yourself the time to luxuriate in a sensual bubble bath. Baths are a great time to reflect on the positive things in life and to just enjoy being with you. You could also take yourself out to a movie that you have been dying to see or take a trip to your local mall and get a free makeover from one of the cosmetic counters.

The ideas are endless; it is important to think of things that you love to do and things that make you feel good and loved. Something that may sound silly, but is guaranteed to make you feel better is to slip on some sexy plus size lingerie and put your favorite music on. Dancing around the house or your bedroom in your hottest plus size lingerie is a sure fire way to lift your spirits on any given day. Remember, life does not have to be so serious all the time; relax and enjoy being silly sometimes.

The first steps are always the most difficult, but when you believe that you are beautiful, everything else will follow. Listening to that little voice in your head, the one that tells you that you deserve to be loved and cherished is crucial in this process. As soon as you can believe that you are someone wonderful and worthy of love, then your entire attitude will change and other people will pick up on that. When you feel up to it, try wearing one of your sexy pieces of plus size lingerie under your clothes when you go out; you will be surprised how different and confident you will feel. Most importantly, figure out the best way to love yourself and it will making loving others so much easier.