Exactly what are you attempting to say? Are you clear enough to get across the point to others? Usually most of us need to become much less confused about the things we are trying to achieve. This applies to everything without exception, from things that are useful to avoiding unpleasant feelings. The problem is to achieve clarity and then to find the solutions to questions. The 7 Words System offers a unpretentious insightful method that enables us to access a greatly improved sense of what it is that we are looking for. The process starts with the word No. We need firstly to mark out precisely what we do not want what is not useful, before we can know what we do want.

Collabrative problem solving: HELLO is about openness and exchange.

What can you learn from others about ways to present your point? The next stage connects to the word Hello. We may well have to make ourselves open to new things if we have a desire to open out our variety of keys to problems. You agree? To get something different we will need to stretch our perspectives and look where we have not previously looked previously. Fresh dreams, new associates, new situations and new things are all facets of giving consideration to something we have not until that time lived through. We will want to substitute old for new, that we have something to offer in adequate return for what we want to acquire.

Collabrative problem solving: THANK YOU is about appreciating and valuing.

What do you most value about the people you are addressing? Do they feel appreciated? Among all of our choices, some are more appealing than others and we give them a higher importance, because we appreciate them more. This is explained by the primary word Thanks. So often, we forget the significance of what we have, fall into thanklessness and are likely to assume what should not be assumed. It's more than just politeness to let somebody see our appreciation for things we esteem; it has a significant effect in helping us to reach our targets. Unconsciously, we are pulled to what we communicate gratefulness for, and yet it's equally correct to say that we will be able to attract them to us too. We build up our charisma when we say Thanks and therefore, if we do so, we readily bring things towards us.

Collabrative problem solving: GOODBYE is about realization, decision, completion, and moving on.

After you have delivered your message, will your audience's understanding be forever different? Goodbye is one of the seven primary words and concerns a progression that has four stages. They are: realization, decision, completion and moving on. What we are saying goodbye to a possible stage of change, so can be seen in basic terms as utter refusal of a workable path of action that we had been stepping towards and in future will not engage in. It is a crossroad point in our choice of possible futures. Goodbye is different from No in that it implies that we have had some level of connection already, which now needs to end contrasted with No's rebuttal in the first place. Firm decisions cut the past away totally and that incisiveness establishes an opening of a doorway that otherwise does not happen.

Collabrative problem solving: PLEASE is about intention and cooperation.

What is the message trying to achieve...what's your intended outcome? The future unfolds according to the customs of what has gone before unless we take control of it and bend it to our desire. This obliges us to have a vision of how we want it to be; this vision has to be very clear, precise and positive transformed into intention. They differ don't they - vision and intention? The first is fairly dreamlike and the second is much more motivated and controlled. For a vision to become real there must be help. Nothing can be achieved without earning the assistance of others - this takes competence, probably influence, , even stimulation. It is not always crucial to tender something such as money or money's worth.

Collabrative problem solving: SORRY is about responsibility, remorse, repair and release.

Do you need to take responsibility for your part in any misunderstandings that have arisen? Sorry, the sixth word, is best seen as repairing harm done if we've been unsympathetic or unmindful to the needs or wants of someone else. The best idea is to make sure we preclude the need to say it by being understanding beforehand. Why on earth should we? Well it's because anyone we upset may well act against our better purposes and lower our odds of success, so it is simply more judicious to think of others as well as ourselves. It is all about being responsible, having some feelings towards someone whom we've upset and making atonement when we've made a mistake. Only then is it feasible to avoid or fix any resentment and let go of the everlasting unpleasantness that otherwise would strengthen and continually irritate.

Collabrative problem solving: YES is about accepting and surrender.

Not every communication will be effective, sometimes you will need to accept that. There is almost always another way, another day...the concluding point of our 7 Words technique relates with acceptance; there are instances when we simply have to resign ourselves to what we cannot change. The word is Yes. It would be lovely wouldn't it if we were able to make the world exactly the way we envision it - but in truth we can't. We always need to suffer what comes, and to take what is not exactly what we asked for.

The best technique is to trust that everything in due course turns around to our advantage, that the modifications to our plans are all improvements when comprehended in the perspective of the longer term. Definitely it's not easy to see it when we are still close and attached to our desires of course not! In spite of that hold your horses and you may well see that the unlooked-for incidents, the surprises and failures are actually the best bits veiled as adversity.