Will simply wanting to change your life someday make it happen?
Probably not.
Will putting that wish in writing make it happen? Maybe, but probably not.
To make a significant change in your life, you've got to go about it the right way, or else it will fall by the wayside like a wish to start your own business, stop smoking, or learn another language. There's a world of difference between wish making and decision making. Decision making is your key to success.
The word decision actually means to cut off all other options. That's pretty decisive. For many different reasons, some people have a really hard time with decision making.
Maybe they're afraid they'll get themselves into a bad situation with no way out. Maybe they fear they'll fail, so they don't even go for it. Maybe they're worried about what other people will say.
Even though many people would certainly say they wish they could make more money, be happier, get along better with others, get in shape, or live in a healthier way, for most people, it's always just a wish. Moving from wish to decision is crucial for anyone who wants to make a big change.
We make decisions all the time, whether we're aware of it or not. Some decisions are made in auto-pilot mode, and that works well in some cases, but not in others.
When you engage in a bad habit, you're making a decision to continue self defeating behavior. When you engage in positive behavior, you decide to do that, too.
We make decisions based on our thoughts and emotions. Then our decisions bring about our actions, and our actions bring about results.
So how do you do what you need to do? You start with a committed decision. What do you want? How do you plan to get it? What's involved, what's required of you in order to move forward toward your goal?
One decision you make stays the same during the whole journey toward your dream, that decision is your goal, what you're aiming for, what you want.
On the way there, you've got a host of decisions to make, too. Each day, you decide what attitude you'll have, what you'll do with your time and energy, how you'll talk and think about your goal, what tactics you'll engage to move forward. Each decision you make automatically cuts off lots of other options.
One of our clients, Pam, decided to start a Network Marketing business last year. She decided that within a year, she'd be at the level where she'd get paid to drive a white Mercedes-Benz.
She decided that she'd build her business by building a team of other motivated consultants. She decided that she'd do whatever it took to get to her goal, even if it felt uncomfortable. She'd do it even if it felt hopeless. She'd do it even if she didn't feel like it.
Each day, as she got ready to work her business, she knew what to do. This is because her decision determined her to do list.
She'd cut off her other options, it wasn't an option for her to spend the day watching reality tv. It wasn't an option to quit after ten people in a row said, "No thank you."
Now, a year later, she's right on the edge of qualifying for that car! If she'd been wishy-washy all along, she'd probably have quit. Making a decision and sticking with it has been her key to success.
Statistics For Decision Making
Rob worked as a qualified, but junior physiotherapist in a busy hospital. He along with three of his colleagues were asked by their manager to discuss amongst themselves how they would like their rosters to be organised (i.e. who would do what shifts etc.) and put forward their proposal. Rob and his colleagues were very happy with their final choices as they had considered all of their personal and professional needs and felt that their decision was the best for all. A day before the new rosters were to start, Rob found out by rumour during his lunch break that their roster recommendations were not to be implemented. Worse still, the rosters decided on by their manager did not suit any of the four. This decision by their manager resulted in a severe lowering of morale within the team and created a culture of mistrust with management. In future, they would be very wary of any suggestion from management.
Ever been a member of a work team where the manager threw a difficult problem over to the team to solve only to see the manager implement a completely different decision to that of the team? If the implemented solution affected the ongoing congruence and cohesiveness of the team, how did this make you feel? Why does this happen and is it a legitimate management strategy for group decision making?
Often this occurs because the manager does not understand the importance and nature of group decision making within teams. It can also occur because of the manager's feeling of comfort with one particular style of group decision making irrespective of the circumstances or context of the problem.
Decision making within groups ranges on a continuum from ?by the leader with little or no discussion? through to ?complete consensus?. Here are the stages along that continuum:
? By the leader with little or no discussion
? By the leader following group consultation
? By an ?expert? (either within the group or advice received by the group)
? Averaging (e.g. using a mathematical process to assess options, then averaging)
? By a minority (can be through personal or positional power)
? By majority vote
? Consensus
Surprisingly, each has its place and can be a very successful method. As a manager, the method of group decision making you decide on, depends on whether you want commitment or compliance from your team. Of the seven methods, only ?consensus? is most likely to produce commitment to the team decision. Using the other six methods will bring compliance (because you are the manager). Commitment will then depend on:
? How well you are perceived as a leader
? How effective (for all concerned) is the final decision
Much has been written by managerial experts about the ?appropriateness? for managers to use consensus decision making in order to build staff morale. This is also supported by the study of jury decision making where it has been found that juries required to make unanimous decisions consider the evidence more carefully and thoroughly and report higher levels of juror confidence in the ultimate decision, than juries operating a majority verdict system (American Judicature Society http://www.ajs.org/jc/juries/jc_decision_research.asp)
Managers should also consider that although it generally takes a lot longer, consensus more often comes up with a better result. Again in the legal system, a recent study of the difference between judges? opinions of the outcome of 48 trials (ranging from a day to five weeks duration) and the ultimate outcome decided by the actual juries using the consensus method, resulted in only three differences. (Law Reform Commission of NSW http://www.ajs.org/jc/juries/jc_decision_research.asp)
However, if you do not need commitment, but merely compliance, then it can be legitimate and effective to choose a method other than consensus. Sometimes this may be necessary because of time, context or other pressures. For example, it would be inappropriate (and quite hazardous) for an army officer to hold a group consensus meeting with the troops on how to hold back the imminent approach of the enemy!
Irrespective of which decision making approach you adopt, the most critical point for managers to remember is:
?Always inform your team beforehand how the decision will be made.?
For example, if you decide that in a particular case, this is your decision to make but you would like the input of your team in order to make an informed decision (by the leader following group consultation), say so. You will find that if you do this on all occasions, then the team will become more involved (and ultimately committed) to both the decision making process and the decisions themselves.
You should also consider what your preferred style of group decision making is and most importantly, how appropriate is it for the current situation. Think for a moment about the last 5 or 6 meetings you have run with your team where there was a critical decision to make. What style of decision making as a leader did you adopt? What style do you feel most comfortable with? My suggestion is to read the list again prior to each team meeting and decide at the outset what method you will adopt for this decision. This will prevent you from becoming locked into your natural or preferred method.
Above all, having decided on a method for this decision, stick with it. In the case of Rob's manager (whom I mentioned at the start of this article), we can all probably see that she adopted consensus as the most appropriate and effective method, but then changed her mind after the event. Initial commitment was certainly lost, grudging compliance was gained and my bet is that staff morale would be very low for some time to come.
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Bob Selden has sinced written about articles on various topics from Management, Customer Service and Education. Bob Selden has run meetings of teams and groups across many organisations and cultures. Over the last 20 years, he has found that using an appropriate group decision making style has increased the effectiveness of both the process and outcomes of his mee. Bob Selden's top article generates over 27100 views. to your Favourites.
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