I love theorising about seduction, men and women and relationships. Its a debate that will continue for ever, mostly because it is all based upon a point of view. A seduction technique that might work on one woman might result in a slapped face if tried on another woman. The point is, you can not pigeon hole people into categories, especially when were dealing with high emotions. Were all different; the real art of seduction is taking the time to understand and appreciate people for who they are.

Its worth repeating, the real art of seduction is taking the time to understand and appreciate people for who they are. How often in your life has someone taken the time to speak to you, ask you questions and show that they are genuinely interested in you and just you. No ulterior motive, no emotional trade offs, just quality time spent getting to know you. I can almost guarantee, if you have experienced this the likelihood is that you were spellbound by the attention. You were the centre of attention. In a nut shell that is the secret art of seduction.

As people, we all like to feel as though we are the centre of attention, we like to feel valued, of interest and need the comfort that people want to spend time with us for no other reason than simply because of whom we are. It makes us feel good, it raises our confidence and self belief, and we all want to spend time with people that make us feel this way. Are you starting to see it now? By making people feel great about them, you are creating an invisible bond of association.

So you can disregard all of the other advice about seduction. Its not a science; its not something that can be achieved by buying a particular brand of drink or saying complimentary things about the way someone looks. The good news is that it is something that we can all do if we put our minds to it.

In summary, take the time to speak with people. Listen to them and devote yourself to the conversation. Take the time to understand them and have empathy with them, youll soon start to see marked improvements in your seduction success rate. Youll also start to feel like you are contributing more to people and receiving a lot more back. Treat people as people, not as an object.