Guys love the thought of learning the tricks of the trade of the pick up artist. Learning that seducing a woman is a learned skill can have a profound, motivating impact on most men. But, like everyone including the master pick up artists, these men often don't think far enough down the road to wonder what will happen once they fall in love.

The idea of falling in love with the woman we seduce barely crosses the mind of student pick-up artists. They often view love as an impossibility or something that they will be able to control or avoid. But avoidance doesn't work. Love happens to all of us. Look at Neil Strauss, best-selling author of The Game. Look at the main character, the infamous Mystery, who goes nearly crazy... as a result of the woman he loves. See, love happens whether we want it to or not.

The problem that all men have, whether they are into seducing a woman or not, is how to keep that woman they love. Nearly all men who have met their "love" by picking them up and employing the tactics learnt through books or live courses do not possess the skills necessary to maintain that relationship. The reason is simple; they have naively bought into the alpha male ideology. They know how to be self-centered, but they don't know how to appreciate their woman. And even if they are intelligent enough to realize the importance of appreciation, they are often able to maintain an appropriate level of appreciation.

The thing these books and courses are great at is teaching us how to seduce. But they do little when it comes to showing us where to take a relationship beyond the initial stages. So we move from "new and exciting" and eventually reach that comfortable stage. This is where the challenges begin because we feel there is little work left to do to keep the "magic" of the relationship going. This is such a bad mistake, however. Although it's nearly impossible to uphold the same level of excitement that landed us this great catch, there more tactics we need to learn that will help our woman love us... for the long-term.

One of the most basic things we can do is appreciate her. Recognize that we are not good at appreciation. While we typically think that appreciation needs to be a big-time effort, it need not be. Simply saying thank you for a failed dinner attempt or giving her a hug and kiss for nice, random token of her love will keep the mood positive. Because once we stop showing our appreciation, she will feel neglected and may start looking elsewhere for this type of attention.

A second vital tactic is excitement. This is more difficult in the comfort stage, but remember that it need not reach the same levels or grandeur as in the initial stages of the relationship. In fact, an occasional adventure once every two or three weeks can keep the relationship fresh enough to make her want to stick around for the "next" spontaneous event.

Changing from a man who is good at seducing a woman to a man who is great at keeping a woman happy is not necessarily an easy one. But the fact that love is now part of the relationship makes the change worthwhile. Just don't forget that the woman you seduced fell in love with you for who you were -- the exciting, adventurous man who made her feel like a queen. Keep that in mind and you will not suffer the fate of many other pick-up artists when it comes to the woman you fall in love with.