I remember learning a few classic tricks or routines like asking a girl to think of a number between 1-10 and guessing the number (its almost always 7) or using some classic opinion openers that I didnt make up myself. My success rate with some of these methods and routines were quite high and others were a 50/50 proposition.

On the other hand, many guys just socialize and make with the lighthearted banter and seem to attract women just as easily without routines. So what gives, are gimmicks like the murder, marry, shag game lame and useless?

Sorry guy, the answer to this one is not a cut and dry yes or no! There is a gray area were natural attraction and routines and gimmicks meet.

First I suggest learning from many sources when it comes to learning how to interact with women. When you come across several different perspectives you will have a more complete understanding of the why instead of just the how.

Now there are a lot of different tactics and routines like canned openers (for striking up an engaging conversation), memorized conversational threads, neg hits (playfully teasing a girl as if there is something wrong when there isnt), disqualifying, (showing that your not too eager to please) and so on. All these tactics or routines can be very valuable tools and highly effective, but there is a catch!

The catch is all these tactics and others must come from the right place and in the right context. In other words they are only methods of projecting an attitude and belief of a confident high value man, women find attractive. Your inner beliefs and proper attitude is what makes gimmicks and routines effective.

The reason for this is because your attitude affects the tone of your voice, facial expressions, and body language without you knowing it. You can say the right things all night long and still hear crickets, because the attitude you say it with is all wrong.

Becoming more social and successful with women can be intimidating. You may wonder how I am just going to start feeling confident around women instantly? Again the way to eliminate your fear and feelings is a two-pronged attack. First, as mentioned above, study from many perspectives. Your beliefs and attitude towards interacting with women will change. As you gain more perspective you will become more socially intelligent while learning in the field.

So learn some fun tricks, gimmicks and routines, but know were they should be coming from inside you and how to properly deliver them. Having fun with games and gimmicks is effective, just learn something from them. Try to understand why they are so fun and effective with women. Then you have taken something valuable from the experience. You can then employ what you learned on the fly and in a more authentic way!