Maybe you have been trying hard to get your ex back and called and left 100 messages. You've left long heartfelt messages and short begging notes, and they still aren't returning your calls. How can you ever get your lover back if they refuse to talk to you?

How in the world can you get your ex back if they won't return your phone calls? Rather than tricks or gimmicks, like trying to bump into them at work, you can be respectful, honest and sincere and get them to talk to you. Here are a few ways to do this:

Call them and leave a message saying if they just give you ten minutes, youll stop bugging them forever, so could they please call you back. If you sound sincere and make this believable, you can often get them to return your call. This way, if they do want you to stop bugging them, they can consider giving you ten minutes so you will leave them alone.

Or send them a note with the same message. What your ex is looking for at this point is for you to stop bothering them, so leave them a message or send them a note and then see if theyll respond. It might take them a day or two, but you can usually get a response this way " depending on how unpleasant the break up was.

Give them a day or two, and if they dont respond its okay. This happens sometimes. Each relationship is unique in what happened, what caused the break up, and how emotionally upsetting the break up was. How to get your ex back is a process, not a formula.

So if they don't get back to you after a sincere, honest, respectful voice mail or letter, you may need to give them a week or two of No Contact. Sometimes, to get your ex back, you have to give them the space and quiet time on their own to grieve or begin to forgive and let go of what happened. So if you give them some time, you can then try the two steps above again.

Giving your ex some space, time, peace and quiet can be very difficult to do, but it also work wonders. It can show that you understand and respect their feelings and their needs, which is always a good thing. It may be hard for us to give them a week or two of space, but it can be just what is needed.

So give your ex a week of no contact if needed, then make a call. You can often get your ex back using some patience. If this doesn't work, there are still some other strategies you can use, like a particular kind of apology or reconnect letter.