You're convinced that your spouse is cheating. But how do you know? You can sense that they're behaving differently but you just can't put your finger on it. Something just doesn't feel right and your instinct tells you that something has changed but yet you still have a doubt as everything appears to be normal on the surface but your intuition is alerting you that all is not what it seems. Maybe you don't want to know the truth, maybe you're afraid of what you might find out, or maybe you're just imagining it but yet there's still that strange feeling when you get that kiss goodbye in the morning that you don't know what your spouse is up to for the rest of the day.

The 3 A's is a surefire way to know if you have a cheating spouse and can help you to come to terms with the fact that you have an issue to be dealt with and you can make the decision that you need to take control of the situation and get answers. You can be assured that even if your spouse is a pathological liar they will still exhibit these tell tale signs that they are up to no good.

1. Appearance.

When your spouse suddenly changes their appearance and takes a lot more effort in how they look this can often be the first signal to you that something has changed. The logic being this is simple, when a person is about to start or has started an affair then just like many birds the want to display their best plumage. They have a new found confidence and they believe that every member of the opposite sex finds them attractive so they must put on their best show. A new interest in fashion, like changing one's wardrobe or new found interest in beauty treatments or getting a new hairstyle can be a cheating spouse's first giveaway sign that their mental pattern has shifted.

2. Attention.

When you find that your partner is making more effort to be attentive and you feel overwhelmed with their sudden change of libido then this can be another indication that things are not what they appear to be. You may have thought the opposite but no! A cheating spouse is a clever little creature and their increased libido serves two purposes. One it's a reaction to the fact that they are likely to be have more stimulating sex elsewhere and therefore their libido goes haywire and they have to expel it somewhere. But, another reason is to throw you off the sent. By being very amorous with you they believe that you wont suspect, or want to suspect that they have anything illicit to hide. So beware of sudden changes in the way they act like bunches of flowers out of the blue, and if you find yourself getting down and dirty on the kitchen table then not only should the microwave have alarm bells ringing.

3. Aggressiveness.

This seems to contradict number 2 but it goes hand in hand with it really. Because, at this stage you know that something is different because you are now with a very amorous, well dressed, sweet smelling person who is always smiling so you decide to question this transformation. This is when the cheating spouse becomes aggressive in their own defense. They will become more aggressive than normal and will fly off the handle when you challenge them about the receipt for champagne that you found when you were accidentally looking in their jacket pocket. The aggression can be the greatest epic drama you will encounter or in it's worse case turn violent. The aggression is just another way to try and confuse you and make you wonder whether or not you're going mad.

So if your partner displays the 3 A's then you can be confident that the time has come to get the answers that you are entitled to and call their bluff once and for all, and that is why there a total industry devoted to catching cheating spouses.