The panic will typically cause them to act against their best judgement. But even their better judgement in this case isn't always correct. That's because it would either take a lot of experience in the school of hard knocks or lots of study to truly know what they should do.



Here are some classic mistakes to steer clear of in your efforts to win your girlfriend back:

1.) Don't apologize too much. Owning up to your mistakes in a mature fashion is commendable. But don't get carried away by assuming all of the blame for all that went wrong.

Unless you really are to blame for all that went wrong, doing this will erode your personal worth to her.

2.) Don't talk badly about the ex girlfriend. Ugly words about her can get blurted out when you're under a lot of stress. You may feel a little better since you're venting off a little steam.

Depending on who and how many people overhear, that little slip of the tongue will find its way to your ex. Getting her back will be difficult as it is. Don't make it even worse.

3.) It's well past midnight and you're feeling an intense need to call her. You feel very lonely and maybe have some alcohol in you. Try as hard as you can not to call her up.

There are two reasons for not calling her. One's that it is an impulse call made when you're feeling emotionally weak. You just don't know what you'll end up saying.

Another reason is that you'll seem desperate and needy. Unless she is really turned on by those qualities, it's a bad idea.

4.) Try to avoid arguing about the separation. Doing this works against you in several ways. First, both of you need to cool off some and incessant arguing just fuels the fire.

Likewise, arguing against the breakup can flip you into anger mode or pleading mode. Being angry with her won't intimidate her, it'll make things worse. Pleading is going to make her wonder why you are so desperate.

Desperation equates to lacking confidence, being dependent, and being too easy to get. These aren't the qualities of the ideal man.

Don't forget that half of the battle is avoiding all of the mistakes that will damage your odds at getting her back. This is done by not allowing yourself to get gripped by anger, panic, or the other extreme emotions that will usually happen during a break up. Avoid any of the thoughts and situations that can arouse these negative feelings and start your plan to win her back.