If you're feeling like your situation is hopeless and that there is no way you can salvage your relationship you aren't alone. I've been there and know how much it hurts to have the one you love and have spent many years with leave you or "fall out of love" with you. It is a horrible and confusing feeling, but I am living proof that your situation no matter how hopeless it seems can get better. Most relationships can be salvaged and be stronger than they ever were, so please be patient and take a deep breath. You can get your ex back and be happy again.

In this article I will show you some simple ways that you can use immediately to get your relationship back on the road to happiness.The main thing that I want you to remember is that your judgment is probably clouded right now because of the extreme emotions flowing through you. I am here to tell you that your situation is not hopeless. I know you can't see it yet but you will. When you start getting panicky and sad, just sit down, close your eyes and take some deep breaths. Keeping your mind clear is critical in this stage of your break up.

You've heard the expression , the squeaky wheel gets the grease? Well not in this situation. I know it's tempting to call, email or text but please try not to. It is much better at this state to just take a few steps back and give him or her their space. For now just "Accept the break-up."

This potentially has three effects:

1) You both need time to re-evaluate what happened, why it happened and what comes next.

2) As Phil Collins said in his song "Something Happened On The Way To Heaven," "You Don't Know What You Got Till You Lose It" is totally relevant because no matter what has happened between you two, a little distance will actually create feelings of missing your life together for both of you.

3) By giving them a little space you are indirectly letting them know that you are respecting their feelings and that this is not all about you and your hurt feelings.

When a relationship falls apart there are usually many factors involved, but generally only a few main things that actually contribute to the break up. Try to separate out what those key things or behaviors are and push aside the minor frustrations for now. Don't think about trying to fix whatever you feel is wrong with your partner, only he or she can do that. Analyze what you are responsible for and how you can fix or change your behavior.

The reason for doing this is to prepare yourself for when you decide you are ready to start the process of re-establishing communication with your ex. A big mistake people make at this stage is rushing back in without really thinking about the situation and then sounding insincere and whiney to your partner.

When you are ready, initiate contact slowly. Send an email, letter or call but don't start out "Trying to get back together." Basically your goal here should be just to find out how they are doing. You don't want to sound desperate (even if you really are.)

The main goal in this stage of getting your ex back is to step back and re-evaluate the situation and to let both of your emotions settle down a bit. Things always seem to feel worse when you are upset. Take some time and try this. It really does work.

Best Wishes!