Are you married to a person who is likeable and affable, yet seems to have a stifling effect over you due to an extremely domineering disposition? Is the loving nature of your spouse interposed by the inexplicable urge to exercise control over every movement of yours? This trait of your partner's personality might leave you confounded. You love your spouse dearly, at the same time such domination repels you.



Welcome, to the confused lot of people who are trapped in such marriages. Such tyrannical people are called control freaks. Basically, control freaks are good people who harbour deep weaknesses and induce anxiety and fear. They try to tackle such insecurity by exercising strict control over all events surrounding them.

Being married to such a person is an unenviable prospect. Your spouse may secretly admire you, yet the flaw born from insecurity creates a deep chasm in the relationship. You have to deal with such a situation carefully. First, assure your partner of your unflinching love, and gently suggest the necessity of seeking psychological counselling. You can explain that this oppressive nature is inhibiting your personal freedom and happiness. If your spouse changes, your marital life is bound to improve.

If your partner insists on remaining unchanged, then you might have to seriously contemplate a divorce. Continued subjugation to such domination would erode your self-confidence. Divorce would have a liberating effect, for it would free you of a control freak, and grant you a stress-free life.

Reclaiming Life

Divorce might cause you initial emotional pain. However, the liberating effect of being freed of your partner's domination would gradually assuage your pain. This joy would get compounded by the new-found financial independence. If you are a job holder, the non-necessity of having combined bank accounts, shared credit cards or contributing to the family finances would enhance your savings. If you are a non-working spouse, you would definitely have to seek a job in the immediate post-divorce phase. The ensuing monetary freedom is sure to be a source of much joy.

Economic independence is the first step in reclaiming lost years. Freed from the negative consequences of living with a control freak, you can now look forward to developing fresh friendships. It is pertinent that you develop good relationships with people who are emotionally healthy. Rebuilding relationship with old friends is a safe option; it enables you finding the right person easily.

Though rekindling old passions seems safe, building a relationship requires extreme hard work. Over the years, both of you might have grown as individuals. Either of you might have been subjected to different life experiences that have moulded you into two different individuals.

With changed personalities, thoughts and circumstances, the development of a new relationship takes time. Though it takes long to rebuild friendship to the stage you left, remember you are in one of the happiest phases of your life. At this stage, apart from enjoying financial independence, you are also enjoying the warmth of long lost love.

A Happy Life Freed of Stress

This period of your life is stress-free and happy. Though stress is an integral part and cannot be fully eliminated, you have rebuilt life to such an extent that you can begin enjoying the benefits of being stress-free.

Did you know that people leading a stress-free life have all the luck in the world? Happy disposition makes it possible to maximise your achievements and move towards your goals. This might have been previously impossible, for pain distracts.

Achieving what you want in life will give you a feeling of power and this would work wonders on your self-confidence. You would definitely feel vibrant for a happy state of mind entails your emotional and physical health too. A stress-free life has a cyclical effect of increasing happiness and this again induces further reduction in stress.

Benefits of happiness spill over to your social life too and elevate your intelligence levels. They make you optimistic and enhance your creativity. Freed of a control freak and leading a stress-free life will enhance your productivity and boost your career. Happiness attracts more happiness and your optimism would ensure a happy future. Enjoy this period and make it last longer. Gradually develop a complete and satisfying relationship with your long lost love. Do not be in a hurry to remarry on the rebound.