Most relationships can be saved following a breakup, regardless of who was at fault for the breakup in the first place. After a period of cooling off, it is more than likely that at least one of you, if not both, will be trying to think of how to get the other party back again. After a breakup, behavioral changes are common, such as not listening to certain songs which remind you of your ex. Some people instead will immediately try to salvage things; calling repeatedly trying to patch things up, or driving by their ex's home to check up on them.

The fights which can precipitate breakups are quite often because one party feels neglected or unappreciated. These sorts of feelings can fuel depression and build up over time to the point that even an argument over something very minor can lead to a breakup. These sorts of problems can be fixed, so if you've been wondering how to get your lover back, there may be hope for the relationship yet.

Both of you will need some time to cool off after the breakup. Just because your ex isn't taking your calls right now, it doesn't mean they are definitely not interested in getting back together, it may just be that he or she is still angry with you, or even that they just want to know how badly you want to get back together.

Continuously calling this person will not make things better; in fact, it could make the situation worse. Just because your ex isn't answering the phone doesn't mean that he or she does not want to make up. Maybe your ex isn't answering the phone because he or she is still angry with you. Maybe he or she isn't answering the phone because they want to see how desperate you will become. No matter what the reason, refrain from continuously calling them. This could make a bad situation even worse. Not only is this an example of desperation, but it is also a symptom of obsession. Continuously calling your ex is a form of stalking and could result in big trouble for you, especially if your ex is actually still angry with you. Also, don't drive by your ex's residence or check on them. Not only will this individual feel that you do not trust them, but, again, this is a form of stalking and could result in prosecution.

Secondly, ask yourself if this relationship is actually worth saving. Be completely honest with yourself! We, as humans, are sometimes in a state of denial. Did the two of you argue continuously, or, for the most part, was the relationship harmonious? If the two of you tended to bicker quite a bit, would one person be willing to compromise in order to stop the arguments? Do you actually have the time necessary to invest in a relationship, or do you have too many responsibilities, such as working long hours. You don't want to be constantly accused of cheating when you were actually at work. These are just some of the things you need to consider prior to reestablishing your relationship.

Do not even make the attempt to spy on your ex because this can trigger an event that you do not want to happen. Your ex may consider you a crazy stalker, and it may make matters even worse. Also, it shows signs that you do not trust them.

The ending of a relationship can be a very confusing and heartbreaking time. Try to remember to take a casual approach to the situation. Wait until the other person is ready to talk. And when the other person is ready to talk, don't talk about the break-up or what caused it. Especially don't make accusations as this will not benefit you, especially if you are attempting to make up. Try to come to a compromise if at all possible. If you are agreeable with your ex, you will certainly have an advantage.