After the big ordeal that is your breakup, it is only natural that your ex will be somewhat evasive and hard to get on the phone. If you ever want to get him back, you will have to find a way around that. Leaving just the right message on his voicemail or answering machine can really make him want to call you back...and it is pretty easy to do if you have the right plan!

First, I will give you a short list of a few of the things you DO NOT want to do (and probably already have!). Do not worry too much if you have already fallen into one of these traps, you can still get him back with a bit of effort. It does make things more complicated though, so try to avoid finding yourself in a situation where you are:

--Pleading and begging him to come back to you. The Plea is almost sure to fail, and even if it does make him willing to give you another shot, he is never optimistic about it and it is almost doomed before it starts.

--Making it out to be a life-and-death deal if he does not call you back. The Emergency is completely ineffective and just makes you look like a desperate drama queen. He knows it is not an emergency, so don't act like it is one.

--Leaving an hour-long message on his voicemail confessing your every emotion like the guy in a romance movie who messed up with his girl and somehow manages to make it all better with one tear-jerking speech. This only works in the movies, and in real life your ex rarely even listens to the whole thing. It is excessive drama, and it gets you nowhere...even if you really feel everything you're saying.

Those are all ways to make sure he DOES NOT call you. To make him WANT to call you, you need to utilize two of the oldest motivators in human nature: curiosity and self-interest. These have been used by everybody from businesspeople to world leaders, because they are effective for directing attention like nothing else is.

Try something along the lines of:

-Hey, I really wanted to thank you...what you did turned my life around. I would appreciate it if you would please call me back, because I would really like to thank you in person.-

This kind of line makes your ex wonder what it was he did that helped you so much, and makes the call seem less like an attempt to convince him to get back together. It feels relatively harmless, and yet has a lot of intrigue to it...he almost won't be able to help himself.

But before you go ANY FURTHER, STOP. When he calls you, if you do not have an underlying plan or strategy for getting him back, you could completely ruin your chances at rebuilding your relationship. DO NOT RISK THIS.