So as Pick-up Artists we need a variety of ways to strongly express direct sexual interest but also have an 'escape hatch' if she calls us out on it.
Let's talk about a very widely used technique we utilize to convey sexual interest...'Bedroom Eyes:'
One obvious benefit about sustained 'bedroom eye' contact is it's certainly not gonna land you in the friendzone.
And I'm a strong advocate that you should go practice in front of a mirror or a good buddy. (Just try not to start kino-ing them;)
For me, 'Bedroom Eyes' feels something like this:
- My head is often cocked slightly to the side or back as if I'm examining her
- My head can be still but can also have slow sustained movement
- The lids of my eyes are easy and relaxed, not wide eyed
- I'm not afraid to hold her gaze just slightly longer than what is 'socially acceptable'
- I drink in her eyes and relish the moments when she breaks the eye contact first
- My subtext is: "You have me intrigued...if I like you enough, I will give you the best sex you've ever had...maybe..."
Now...
Even after you get really good at doing this you will almost always get called out on it by her, particularly if you are with her for an extended period of time.
Here is a very effective counter i created to deal with her when she does:
*What's below should all be playful, and you should really get her to do it*
Her: "You keep looking at me with this sexy stare."
You: "What are you talking about?"
Her: "Yeah, you keep looking at me...I don't know..."
You: "Ok, since I have no idea what you're talking about, can you show me what I am supposedly doing?"
Her: "I'm not sure if I can imitate it."
You: "Come onnnn, show me;) Let's see this look you SAY I'm giving you."
*she imitates*
You: "Oh my God. That might be the sexiest thing I've ever seen. Is that I how I look to you when I'm doing it? Wow. You should keep on doing that!"
She will laugh, but the laugh is not the real payoff. You have now started a game with her that you will continue throughout the interaction, periodically getting her to show you the 'look' again...
The trick is now you've got HER giving YOU bedroom eye contact too which accomplishes 3 things:
1. You've got yourselves a fun little game you can always go back to.
2. This kind of play amplifies the sexual chemistry.
3. Her making the face actually reinforces in her mind that she really is attracted to you.
Enjoy,
Julian
Mystery The Pickup Artist
But what does calibration REALLY mean in relation to dating?
You could open the dictionary and easily look up a dozen different definitions for the word.
But there is one in particular I think that the pickup artist should memorize:
cal'i'brate [kal-uh-breyt] -verb
-to determine the correct range for (an artillery gun, mortar, etc.) by observing where the fired projectile hits.
Please read that again because it is a perfect analogy for what we are trying to accomplish in a seduction.
Every guru and their mother make reference to calibration but tend to be extremely vague when talking about how to IMPROVE IT.
I've heard all sorts of crap, everything from "You just have to practice more" to "Calibration can't be taught, that's why naturals are naturals."
Such bullshit. If I could put a sound effect in right now it would be that annoying buzzer from Family Feud.
Of course calibration can be improved! And I'm going to show you a technique that will do it. This dating advice is called:
'Imaginary Action Reversal'
In a nutshell it's quite simple...
Before you start down a risky conversational topic, send a text message, make a phone call, go in for the kiss, or any other assortment of actions you might take with a woman, it is useful to IMAGINE that whatever you are about to do...she does to you instead!
Then ask yourself:
"Did I just get MORE attracted or LESS attracted to her?"
And finally, allow your intuitive response to guide your decision whether or not to make the move.
Think about it...
Who is the best judge you have to determine if an action is 'attractive' or not?
You guessed it, it's YOU.
I know men are from Mars and woman are from Jupiter or whatever, but we sure got a lot of things in common and one of those things is definitely attraction.
Behavior that normally turns me off, usually turns a woman off. And behavior that normally turns me on, usually turns a woman on.
We are not as different as society has us believe.
Here is a quick wrap-up of the steps you need to do if you want to take your own calibration to the next level:
1. You get an impulse to say or do something that relates to her
2. You imagine HER saying or doing it to YOU
3. You pay attention to your own emotional response (to the image) and let the quality of your response determine whether or not you go through with the action.
Easy as Pie.
Practicing this exercise is simple, fun, and an amazingly effective way of developing pin-point calibration.
Have fun,
Julian
PS: Depending on the situation, the amount of TIME you have to use the technique is a factor. You don't want to interrupt the flow of a good conversation if you don't have to.
Just be confident that the more comfortable you become with Imaginary Action Reversal, the faster you will get, and eventually it will become something you are always subliminally aware of.
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