1. Go to the right place. The usual places for men to pick up women are the clubs, bars and disco houses. Whether you are going alone or with friends, make sure to choose a nice, safe and well-known place. You don't necessarily have to opt for the most expensive, but consider researching and asking trusted people on the best hang-outs that's best to pick-up a woman.
2. Chose the right girl. I know that it's hard, but I'll try to make it easier for you. Once you enter the place, you will probably have a lot of “potential targets” to choose from. Find someone and examine them from afar. Are they alone? Well, it may or may not be a good sign. You're lucky if she's alone. But she might be waiting for someone else on the other hand. Is she with her friends or with a group of people? Don't loose hope; there will always be a great chance that her companions will leave the table to dance/go to restroom and stuff. Notice of she looks bored or unhappy. This will be a great opportunity for you to get her attention.
3. Practice the art of flirting. The best way a stranger can notice you is to suggest that you are attracted to her through body language flirting. Use the eye contact test. If you catch her trading glances with you, that is your cue to get off your ass and approach. It's a clear sign that she finds you attractive and she wants you to approach her.
4. Approach her and introduce yourself. And by that, I mean properly. Just because the place is not formal, you should make an effort to introduce yourself in a striking and intelligent manner. Ask her casual questions, like if she's having fun but avoid buying her a drink! Only beta males buy drinks for women right off the bat.
5. Avoid cheesy and blunt pick-up lines. Using pick-up lines is probably the most widely used way to pick up a woman. A girl can smell a fake from a mile away. Opt for casual questions and ice breakers. Smile and make eye contact.
6. Be a good conversationalist. Talk to her in a way that she will find you interesting, funny and sincere. Inject humor, teasing, curiosity and seriousness in your conversation. Take advantage of this opportunity to get to know her better and learn a lot of new things as well.
7. Mind your manners. Everyone's attracted to a gentleman. Try to leave a good impression by being polite, interested and appropriate. If you ask her to dance, respect her decision if she declines. If she says yes, dance with grace and leave the body grinding for another time.
8. When things get more a little more serious and comfortable suggest a less quite place where you both can sit down and talk. The best way to pick up a woman, as they say, is to gain her trust and make her feel at ease with you.
9. Compliment her. The trick is not to be like everyone else. Don't compliment her beauty! Every other guy does that and she's heard it a million times. Find something unique and compliment her on that.
10. Remember that picking up women needs practice. It's a numbers game and there will always be a time where you will get rejected. Accept it and learn from your mistakes.
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A guy can obviously overcome his problems of grammar or math if he desires to. These problems are fairly easy so solve.
Yet problems which are considered physiological, like fear of rejection, are so much a part of us that we cannot really do anything about them intentionally.
Let's be honest here. You have probably tried by now to remove and/or bypass your fears around women in many different ways but still you failed to achieve ongoing success. You have tried to bypass your fears by implementing an idea like courage.
You have tried to remove your fears by giving logic explanations to them and analyzing them. But none of your methods worked.
So it seems that you cannot remove your fears completely and perpetually.
Yet the fear of rejection must be removed, if one wants to live a life of happiness in this world in general and with women in particular.
Before we begin delving into the serious topic of the fear of rejection, I want to say that when we discuss fear, we are not discussing the self protecting mechanism of your body which protects you from non-existence. I mean, we are not talking about the mechanism which "signals" you to move when a bus is heading your way.
This is not the fear that we are talking about, we are talking about illogical physiological fears which prevent us from living our life to the fullest.
Now... Have you ever asked yourself why do you have fear at all? Surely you only experience fear when you are comparing your current state with some other state that you want to be in.
For example, you experience fear when you compare yourself to another guy. A guy who you think is more handsome than you, smarter than you, more successful with women than you, etc...
You have also fears about the future, for example:
- You see a beautiful girl walking down the street and you want to pick her up. Then thought comes about and "signals" you to avoid any action because your action may hurt you in the future.
- You have a girlfriend or someone that you just have sex with and this gives you great pleasure, but you are afraid that your current pleasure will end in the future because something may happen to your relationship, like the girl leaving you.
I hope we realized by now that our thoughts are our enemy. Thought breeds pleasure, pain and fear. Thought also offers you "logical" ways of overcoming your fear around women, yet those "great ways" never work for the long run.
So maybe, just maybe, thought is not such a good friend as we initially thought it was.
Finding out that thought is not your REAL friend but your ENEMY is a discovery by itself isn't it.
Thought helps you in so many ways in your "technical" life that's for sure (building a house for example), yet when thought enters your physiological life it creates chaos and havoc in it.
Thought creates your problems with women and then tries to help you solve them in different ways.
You have tried to implement different methods to bypass your fear of rejection but your fear keeps knocking on your "mental door" over and over again.
Yet when you truly understand that you can't do anything about fear because fear is an integral part of you.
Fear, surprisingly, ceases to exist.
An illusion can only exist if you believe it to be true.
It is like a crazy man who tries to escape from his arm. The moment he realizes that his arm is a part of him and he cannot escape from it. The problem of the getting away from the arm ceases to exist.
So never try to analyze your fears, bypass them or overcome them.
Instead do whatever you can to be aware of your fears when they come about.
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