Medical professionals often use the term "erectile dysfunction" to describe this disorder and to differentiate it from other problems that interfere with sexual intercourse, such as lack of sexual desire and problems with ejaculation and orgasm. A simple recounting of sexual activity might distinguish between problems with erection, ejaculation, orgasm, or sexual desire.



Ejaculation is the natural culmination of a sexual act on a man's side. It's the goal of pleasure that most of men are looking. There are many ways to have ejaculation, ways that we have learnt from necessity and out of curiosity.

The most common form of delayed ejaculation makes the man unable to ejaculate in the presence of the partner. If the man can ejaculate well enough alone, using masturbation, then it stands to reason that the causes for this dysfunction are psychological. Most men suffering from this kind of hang-up either have deep religious backgrounds or have been taught that sex is sin. There are also some cases when painful events have led to this dysfunction. The problem with ejaculation has approximately 30% of long term diabetics.

In such cases self-will is not enough to force the body to feel something that isn't there and it's not a good idea to force yourself anyway. It might work once or twice, but that's about as far as this approach will take you. You can also look for a professional therapist. Therapists can suggest a way out of the problem by discussing the situation with both partners.

Men can certainly use this go about on their own, although the risk of failure is substantial. There are little tricks everybody can use to bring sex closer to an ideal situation. Relaxation in most cases helps, which means that candle-lit rooms, romantic dinners or a bit of alcohol. Have fun with conversation and focus on being relaxed.

Another thing that might help is to train your pubococcygeus muscle and bring it under your control. Being able to relax and tense that muscle at will is likely to help in some cases. Happy sexual function depends on both your mind and your body.