The problem with this approach is that it doesn't work because the guy is trying to be someone he is not. Pickup lines have their place as long as they don't sound like pickup lines.
Let's take a closer look at what a pick up line is and what an icebreaker is. A pickup line is generally just what the name implies and that it is designed to pick up on a woman. But most men walk away feeling frustrated because their intention was to pick her up instead of simply trying to get to know her or trying to make her feel good.
A far better approach is to use a solid icebreaker. An icebreaker is far more effective because it comes off as more natural.
Let me give you an example of what I am talking about.
Let's say that you are at a private house party and that there are a lot of guests and people are standing around talking and having a good time. You see a woman from across the room, she has long hair, a beautiful smile, and she's holding her drink out as though to say "come over and talk to me big boy".
Since you are a confident male you walk up to her and you simply say, "Excuse me, but I was wondering if you have ever heard of gazing into a person's spirit?" And most women will respond to that by saying they have never heard of gazing.
This is known as an icebreaker because you're walking up to a woman and simply asking her if she knows about something. Whether she does her she doesn't is irrelevant because if she knows about it she will give you her opinion. If she doesn't know about it then you can educate her and show her what it means.
Now for this example it's really not that important what gazing into a person's spirit really means because you can pretty much make that up. The important thing is is that you are using an icebreaker instead of a pickup line.
In other words, you are communicating that you are a fun person that you have a certain knowledge on a certain subject. You can find out all kinds of neat sayings despite going to Google.com and doing a search on different topics.
Here is another good example of an icebreaker. One criteria of a good icebreaker is that it leaves the woman feeling good about herself and feeling good about your interaction together, even if nothing romantic transpires between both of you.
One of my favorite icebreakers is to simply ask women if they know what their horoscope said today. This is a win-win situation for both of you because even if she does know hat her horoscope is you can simply ask her what it said and then you can comment on it. If she doesn't know what her horoscope is you can simply make something up.
I don't recommend you do that because you can simply go on the Internet and look up all the horoscopes for that day and simply read them a couple times and you'll be able to remember the highlights of each one. Women love talking about their horoscope.
So go out there and try some icebreakers instead of trying so hard to pick up a pretty woman. You will find that this approach is 10 times more effective than using pickup lines.
The Pick Up Lines
With all the single women out there, and the thousands of different things you could say when introducing yourself, you'd think it would be easy to meet a woman. However, most men struggle with what to say after "Hi." They fear that awkward pause as it becomes clear you have absolutely nothing to say and basically just thought she was hot. Never fear, however, today we introduce the Opinion Opener, as popularized by Neil Strauss and Mystery several years ago.
Opinion openers work because they recognize two key truths about women: they love to talk and are very opinionated. By asking the women their opinion on something, you have a built in conversation piece to talk about, and can occupy any awkward silences that can come up the first few minutes.
Here's an example of something you might say to a group of three girls in a bar:
"Hey guys, I need a female opinion on something. I only have a minute. Do you think if a guy invites a girl to a ball, he should pay for her ticket?" Usually, they'll say yes.
Continue on with "Well, my roommate invited this girl from work to a Halloween ball, and she is insisting he pay for her cover, her sister's cover, and to even pay for her costume. What do you think of that?"
Immediately, the women will respond with "No way! Tell him to drop the witch!" This will spring open more topics such as Halloween, relationships, etc. You now have enough rapport with them to talk about other things as well. Get off opening topic soon and go on to something else, or the energy will start to really stagnate.
Other questions could be:
"My frat brother's starting a ska band and he needs a name for it. What do you think is a better name, The HoloDice or Skip Rider?"
"My friend Becky has been talking to this guy online for like 6 months, started to feel like things were moving somewhere, and they were going to meet, but she just saw a recent photo of him and he's not good looking at all. What should she do?"
Remember that the key elements of an opinion opener include a normal greeting and a false time constraint. If you say you have to go in a minute, it lets the girls know you're not going to hijack their group all night, and they will open up more.
The best use of opinion openers is for guys that aren't used to going up to women that regularly. Women are usually likely to comply with an opinion opener even if they're not sold on the guy yet, so it's great practice for beginners. Remember that it may sound awkward to use these at first, but just keep doing it, and it will be very natural.
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