Well it doesn't have to be that way. You can learn how to pick up women easily and all the time. The first thing to understand is that she is just as interested in dating as you are. Understand that ice girls are taught to play hard to get from the moment they understand what dating is. They are told that if they come across too aggressive with a man, that he isn't going to like it. So they don't seem interested when they are or they don't call you back. How can you tell the difference between a woman who is playing hard to get and a woman who really isn't interested?
The woman who is playing hard to get will still be standing next to you and may be looking down at the floor. Or she may touch your arm. Or the woman talks to you on the telephone, keeping you on the telephone longer by asking you questions. In short she doesn't just say no thanks in a nice way, she prolongs the encounter in some way. That's the easiest way you can tell she's playing "hard to get" with you.
It is no secret that women like confident men. However, many men mistake the idea of confident for some type of arrogant jerk. They think that a confident man is the type of man who thinks he is always right, always perfect. That is not quite what a woman is looking for. Most women are looking for a man who accepts himself as he is with his good points and his faults. If you can be confident enough to accept that you are shorter than she is, instead talk to her anyway she is going to admire your confidence.
A funny guy also has great success with women. This is not to say that you have to be a comedian. Learn to tell a story in an adventurous way. Or learn several good jokes that you can tell when you meet women. A word of warning: do not tell jokes that some women would consider to have racial, ethnic or sexist slurs in them. An off-color joke or remark could easily turn off a woman who is already interested in you. Don't take the chance and lose out on a great date with a beautiful woman because you tell her some dumb joke you don't even think is that funny. Learn some clean jokes, the kind you'd tell your boss at work.
One of the best ways to pick up any woman is by using common courtesies. Women love a man with good manners. This is something they will always tell their friends after they have been on a date. Did he open the car door for you, they'll ask each other. Did he stand when you walked into the room is another question that they'll ask. While some of these may seem a bit formal to you, having good manners shows a woman that you know how to treat people well. If you know how to treat people well then you'll most likely treat her well.
Another top tip to pick up women is to be nice to the other women in her life. If you are interested in a woman, be nice to her sisters, friends, mother and other women. Women talk to each other. If you are not polite and thoughtful then guess what they are going to talk about you. However if you make a great impression they are going to all say nice things about you: this is going to make snagging this woman all the easier.
Picking up women always gets easier with practice. Add some of these tips to your daily life and you'll soon discover that you are picking up more women with ease.
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I remember learning a few classic tricks or routines like asking a girl to think of a number between 1-10 and guessing the number (its almost always 7) or using some classic opinion openers that I didn't make up myself. My success rate with some of these methods and routines were quite high and others were a 50/50 proposition.
On the other hand, many guys just socialize and make with the lighthearted banter and seem to attract women just as easily without routines. So what gives, are gimmicks like the murder, marry, shag game lame and useless?
Sorry guy, the answer to this one is not a cut and dry yes or no! There is a gray area were natural attraction and routines and gimmicks meet.
First I suggest learning from many sources when it comes to learning how to interact with women. When you come across several different perspectives you will have a more complete understanding of the why instead of just the how.
Now there are a lot of different tactics and routines like canned openers (for striking up an engaging conversation), memorized conversational threads, neg hits (playfully teasing a girl as if there is something wrong when there isn't), disqualifying, (showing that your not too eager to please) and so on. All these tactics or routines can be very valuable tools and highly effective, but there is a catch!
The catch is all these tactics and others must come from the right place and in the right context. In other words they are only methods of projecting an attitude and belief of a confident high value man, women find attractive. Your inner beliefs and proper attitude is what makes gimmicks and routines effective.
The reason for this is because your attitude affects the tone of your voice, facial expressions, and body language without you knowing it. You can "say the right things" all night long and still hear crickets, because the attitude you say it with is all wrong.
Becoming more social and successful with women can be intimidating. You may wonder how I am just going to start feeling confident around women instantly? Again the way to eliminate your fear and feelings is a two-pronged attack. First, as mentioned above, study from many perspectives. Your beliefs and attitude towards interacting with women will change. As you gain more perspective you will become more socially intelligent while learning in the field.
So learn some fun tricks, gimmicks and routines, but know were they should be coming from inside you and how to properly deliver them. Having fun with games and gimmicks is effective, just learn something from them. Try to understand why they are so fun and effective with women. Then you have taken something valuable from the experience. You can then employ what you learned on the fly and in a more authentic way!
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