Sounds hard to believe but there ARE words that will nearly cast a spell and make your ex feel almost compelled to return your call.
Cool huh?...
I am going to share this with you because this is one of the most common problem from people from people who are trying to put their relationship back together.
** First, a Warning....
If you use this technique alone, without an 'overall' plan or strategy...you may damage your relationship more than if they never returned your call.
So be sure you have an overall strategy, like the one mentioned about below.
** Here's What Not to Say!
Before we get into the actual words, let's go over what message almost Never works.
And worse...
Puts you in an Awful 'psychological' position.
These usually fall into 2 categories.
The Plead - Where the message sounds like:
"John, please, please call me. This is the 3rd time I have called. I HAVE to talk to you."
And the Emergency:
"Cindy, this is an emergency. Please call me as soon as you get this."
Now, I think you can see what is wrong with both of those approaches?
So, I won't go on and on...
** How To Use Curiosity & Self Interest To Your Advantage
Two of the most powerful forces of the human mind are:
*Curiosity & *Self Interest
And here's the big secret!
When you combine the two, you have a recipe that WILL work 'magic'.
So...
Let's look at what you can say that works nearly Every Time!
In a friendly tone:
"Hi John. It's Cindy. I wanted to let you know I appreciate what you did for me. Call me because I want to thank you in person."
Do you see how that uses both curiosity and self interest?
John will not be able to resist! "What did I do?" "What does she appreciate?" he will be thinking. And he feels good because it is a positive message.
Now...
Before you call you need to think about the "Set Up"...which is figuring out what he/she did that you appreciate.
It can be any small thing...but needs to be plausible.
But more importantly...
** Another Warning...
What you do before, during and after they return your call is more important than getting them to return your call.
If you apply this technique with no underlying strategy and they call you back you can do more damage than good if you do not handle it correctly.
